Tips for parents and caregivers navigating community conversations and concerns with young people

As immigration enforcement (ICE) actions have emerged across the state and in our communities, education and child care professionals are aware that some children are afraid of being separated from their parents and other loved ones. 

It can be challenging for parents to communicate with children about things that happen in our world that may prompt questions and/or concerns. While we can’t prevent our children from learning or hearing about events that are covered in the media or discussed in our communities, the way that we model our reaction is key to helping children learn how to deal with difficult situations throughout their entire life.

• Review tips for guiding conversations with children, compiled by the Minnesota Association for Children’s Mental Health. (Available in English, Spanish, Korean, Mandarin, Somali, Karen, Portuguese.)
   

What you can do: As a parent/guardian, there are a variety of things you can do to recognize fears and concerns while helping children feel safe.

• Ask questions. It is important to understand what the child has heard or knows before going into details. Just as adults become alarmed or even fearful, children also can feel these emotions and it is easy to be confused.
   
• Consider your own reaction. Your children will look to the way you handle difficult topics in the news to determine their own approach. If you stay calm, they will too.
   
• Take a break from the news. While you may be interested in staying tuned in for the latest developments, your children may not be able to handle hearing or watching the information. The American Psychological Association recommends limiting the amount of time spent watching news reports, as constant exposure may actually heighten a child’s anxiety and fears. In our 24/7 news culture, remember that news is accessible in more mediums than just the newspaper or television: Consider use of computers, tablets/iPads, and cell phones.
   
• Answer questions without unnecessary details. Even if you limit news exposure in your home, chances are your children may hear details – not all of which may be accurate. Ask your child what they have heard, don’t assume they know the facts.
   
  • With young children, you may consider redirecting their attention. Read a book, and spend quality time together to support your child’s emotional needs.
     
  • With older children, you can discuss family values and the questions you both have, together.
     
• Do not minimize their concerns or fears. Talk to your children about the things that are being done on a daily basis to keep them safe – such as holding their hand in a parking lot or buckling them in their car seat, for example. Children oftentimes want to be told they are safe and that we do the things we need to do to protect them. Remind them that you are there for them and to come to you if they have fears.

Difficult times can be a reminder for us to slow down and take time to enjoy our children and family every day. There is more good than bad in the world, focus on the positive and the joy in each day.

Need more support? Families may reach out to their school or review more resources online at ahschools.us/immigration.